I'm like, arguably the worst writer on the planet

[goscuter]

"Love is whatever is left to betray."
- John le Carre

Love is so horrifying. I basically can prove that everyone (including me prior to Oct 2010) is a sociopath or a narcissist (pre-sociopath).

---

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/21/us...in-public.html

The problem is not narcissism.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is merely the corruption of one's sense of Self. Narcissism evolved to protect humans from sociopaths who manipulate the emotions of others into feeling they should do what the sociopath wants them to do. This will never be in the best interests of anybody; not even the sociopath. Sociopaths are insane. The reason they are dangerous is because they feel selective empathy when they imagine it suits them to feel that way.

They can convince you that they love you because their love is not faked. They can convince someone else half an hour later. They're not faking. They can sell almost anything. All they have to do is convince themselves. They will be convincing because they truly believe what they're saying when they're saying it. They are genuinely terrifying because they believe anything they feel is valid by virtue of their feeling it & anything they do is justified by virtue of their doing it. So everything they say is a lie which becomes ‘truth’ by virtue of their saying it. They're insane.

They're dangerous but they don't know how to be happy. They create misery & suffering which blows back onto them because they're not gods. They just feel that way because they are drunk with power as 'humans' who don't care about humanity. Without empathy you cannot be humane.

Narcissists have the same problem with happiness, but they are not dangerous except when they’re so callous they fail to appreciate or consider the danger of their actions. They have no empathy to be humane but their inhumanity will be incidental. They bring their suffering onto themselves with their inconsideration. Sociopaths consider. That's why they're dangerous.

Their consideration of you will be genuine but not real. They feel it to exploit. It won't last, but it will only end when they no longer value you; perhaps when you are dead. Sociopaths can be charming, personable, magnetic, popular and impressive and a man’s man who drives women to obsession by also revealing their sensitive, chivalrous, understanding & sympathetic side. None of this is real but when the sociopath believes it, you will believe it. Narcissists will never be convincing until they have the capacity to feel what you feel in a way that doesn't leave them exposed to emotional manipulation.

Sociopaths create narcissists out of children. Narcissists suffer as they scream ME ME ME & that's not a convincing argument. Train or force narcissists to consider how you feel & you'll be making a very big mistake. If you're succeed, you'll have created a sociopath who is simply a narcissist who has learned how to act in public.

And that, boys and girls, is how Polite Societies are made.

---

If you want the logical proof that you're a sociopath or a narcissist, there are questions at the bottom which I don't believe can be refuted with logic.

---

You're either having fun or you're not.

If you're not, this is why.

If you believe you are, you should know that sociopaths and narcissists are easily confused by their handicap. They cannot distinguish between fun and someone pretending to have fun for the same reason they cannot distinguish between respect and fear. They cannot feel empathy. Their emotional perception is skewed. They're emotionally degraded. Something or someone got in the way of their emotional development. They're humans, interrupted. Emotional Toddlers for life, but then they'll never live until they grow up.

Narcissists & sociopaths do not live. They merely survive.

It's narcissists & sociopaths who don't know how to play the Game of Life. They play as best they can but they're abysmal. They haven't got a clue about how to have fun. Every human knows how to play the Game of Life. They listen to their DNA. Narcissists & sociopaths have to silence the noise of the Abrahamic religions' emotions which were used to corrupt and interrupt their emotional development.

Human DNA always screams the same message non-stop at humans, narcissists and sociopaths.

“Act in your own best interests. Be Selfish.”

So how did everyone get confused about intelligent Selfishness? They brilliantly tricked you into thinking insane Self-less consideration of no one but your own feelings (at the expense of others) was naughty. And optimal. It’s neither.

It’s merely insane.

The only difference is one of perception. Humans understand. Narcissists and sociopaths are handicapped by virtue of their incapacity to feel empathy, so their perception is corrupted.

Human children are forced to learn to block the demands of the other two. So human children become narcissists as a defence mechanism. Narcissists become sociopaths when they learn how to behave in public. Round and round the cycle of exploitation and misery goes.

But I have solutions. I no longer simply know how to act in public. I know how to be human and simultaneously protect mySelf from those who would exploit human empathy.

I was 29 and about to die when I saw something that gave me pause. Reality had changed before my eyes as my mood crashed from an artificially-inflated high (love) to an artificially-deflated low (betrayal). And I thought, "Has my entire life been a misperception?"

The pain of 'betrayal' evaporated. I realised none of it was real; just imagined. The thought had literally never occurred to me.

I stood up, laughing. I no longer had to worry about what the public thought. I wasn't afraid.

I was a confused, emotional Toddler until I was 29. Then I grew up.

Narcissists and sociopaths don’t realise they want to be humane. They don’t perceive the value. So they don't play fair. They don't trade. They don't want to do anything they don't want to do and that's an impossibly human trait they share with humans. Any shared variable is a clue.

All three are human, two are incapable of understanding their inability to be inhumane is not in their best interests. Narcissists & Sociopaths are humans, interrupted. They're still human, they've just been confused. Incapable of appreciating the value of others, they cannot accurately identify what is optimal behaviour. Prevented from contributing, they became confused and started leaching. They breed life to feed on, because they don't feel empathy except for what they own.

Only narcissists and sociopaths breed children of their own, for that reason. They want ownership. They can't care for a child that they do not own.

“By their fruits, ye shall know them.” Or more specifically, whether or not they feel compelled to make their own fruit when there is more than enough fruit to preclude their making their own even remotely or arguably humane.

Neither narcissists nor sociopaths breed narcissists or sociopaths. It's not hereditary, thank goodness. When they breed, a human child is born. Narcissists & sociopaths are what human children are turned into by their narcissistic or sociopathic parents. Humans don't really have children because this is a world of suffering which creates more Children of Humanity that require care than any human being could ever care for. Together, we could do it. Once we realise they are our own.

How do you tell if you are humane, a sociopath or a narcissist? It's easy.

Are you okay with others suffering to please you? If yes, you're going to be either a sociopath or a narcissist. Pain is inhumane. The pain of suffering will be felt by the human, which precludes any chance of their being pleased. Suffer to please humans and you will horrify them. They will suffer with you.

How do you tell if you are a sociopath or a narcissist? It's easy.

Are you making others suffer to please you?

Are you pleased when others suffer to please you? If yes to either, you're a sociopath. You have learned how to coerce, manipulate or force others to suffer in order to impress you. You have learned how to make others do what you want them to do; like, for example, make them behave in public with your prisons and punishment and laws (none of which teach humans how to act in their own best interests; they just used to control narcissists and sociopaths who commit crimes of passion because they cannot feel empathy).

How do you become human when you've been interrupted? The answer should be simple.

You are human, you're just not humane as a result of being confused. If you can see the optimality in your best interests being the same as the best interests of Humanity, you simply have to want to be sane.

You want it. You might not realise it because you’ve been confused but the value is as easy as understanding that if we stopped trying to play Prisoner’s dilemma optimally, we could all get out of Prison.

You could be worth ~7.3 billion times the value you’re worth now. You simply have to want it. That’s change worth believing in enough to take a ‘risk’ for, don’t you think?

Or are you too busy feeling your way through life?